I have notice that many… perhaps even most nonbelievers are turned off by being preached to. Many even get angry and hostile at the Christian preaching to them. I suspect part of this reason is because they keep hearing the same passages over and over again.
It is somewhat like how a child may wants his mother or father to watch the same movie over and over again, because, the child really likes the movie and wants his/her mom or dad to like it as well. The child’s parents may watch the movie even though they do not like it the first time. However, after the first ten times. They may just get sick of it. And will just get frustrated or even angry every time the child puts the DVD in the DVD player.
So imagine perhaps an atheist. (S)He may have sat down with a real interest in what the Christian was saying to him for the first few times. Now imagine that vary same atheist who was for whatever reason not ready to come into Christ arms. Hearing John 3:16 and thousands of other bible passages preached to him, ones a day or once every other day for 10, 20 or 30 years. You can imagine just how frustrating it is going to be for him or her. By doing this and trying to witness to a person over and over, we can be actually driving a wedge between the atheist and Christ instead of bringing him or her closer.
This is why I primary preach the gospel without quoting from the bible it self. Or trying to preach to them in a way they do not know I am doing it. Now this idea may sound strange to some because many of us are use to the idea of going around to nonbelievers and quoting some passage from the bible to them. However, are behaviors, actions and just how we live are lives can be vary effective way to bring people to Christ. Jesus tells us that when we witness to people we are not just to use words but to use are deeds.
“Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16 NKJV)
Our deeds can and often do play a huge deciding factor in bringing people into the arms of Christ. People who otherwise would not be convinced by words alone. People who are just sick of hearing the bible read to them over and over again. And I suspect that would be the majority of nonbelievers.
We are even told in the fallowing passage that a husbands can be won without a word being said.
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,” (1 Peter 3:1 NKJV)
This passive approach of using are deeds, are behaviors and actions to bring people into the fold seems to be vary powerful. And why is this so powerful? The answer is because Christianity becomes attractive to the nonbeliever? Think about it. The earliest Christians Could not go around just preaching the word of God to people without fear of imprisonment or even death. Yet for some reason people flocked to them. And they quickly gained numbers. And they did this, not by standing on a street corner holding a sign or going door to door. They did it by how they lived their lives. They did it by being examples to the nonbeliever.
No matter what damming or insulting thing that people said about them, no matter how they where treated. They always conducted them self’s in a positive fashion. Attempting to be Christ like. They lead people into Christ arms by their deeds.
“Exhort bondservants to be obedient to their own masters, to be well pleasing in all things, not answering back, not pilfering, but showing all good fidelity, that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior in all things.” (Titus 2:9-10 NKJV)
So I use my deeds to preach the gospel without quoting from the bible it self (At lest most of the time). So when people see my deeds, they may want to learn about Christ. And what Christ has to teach them. And once I have their attention and their willingness to learn about Christ. I can use words because now, they are willing to hear what I have to say. When previously they where not.
However, do not get me wrong. I still do use words when I think that the situation its self warrants it. Or is the best approach I have for that given circumstance. I just personally think that preaching the gospel with my deeds are the best and approach to use today. At least in a mostly Christian nation where nonbelievers are sick of having the bible read to them.
Just remember however, that Jesus used both words and actions to convey his message to all of us.