The boys

I am enjoying and amazed at just how big Ezra has grown in such a short time. Not to mention just how much my boy has been eating. He has definitely not allowed us to get a full night’s sleep as a result, always wanting to eat. This is much different than it was with Elijah, who was the opposite in many ways. At least that’s how I remember.

He had slept a lot more, which means we did as well. He didn’t eat a lot unlike Ezra who, again is basically one giant eating machine.

Elijah giving Ezra a bath

One thing that has surprise me is how Elijah has not been been jealous of brother or attention we’ve been giving him. If anything, Elijah has been looking for anyway he can to help. He been throwing the soiled diapers in the bin, and even recently just helped me give him a bath.

There really has not been any noticeable changes to my family or personal life. Though, Luz is more relax with Ezra then she was with Elijah. With Elijah, it seemed like every time he coughed she was saying, “Babe, we need to take him to the emergency room. I think he sick.” It drove me crazy. However, This time around she more relaxed. I would say that she is more relaxed then I am.

At this point, because Ezra is still so young and only eats, sleeps and cries, there is not much to talk about. However, I am sure that as time goes on, there ia going to be a lot more talk about. Not to mention, I can’t wait to see Ezras personality emerge and how it will differ from his older brothers personality.

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“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15).

Being fruitful and multiplying is not all that God wanted us men to do. God wanted us to actually get involved and raise our children and not just get the willy wet and leave. God tells us in Proverbs 22:6 to “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

It’s our duty to raise our children in a godly way. If we don’t and sit on our but all day, leaving them to raise them self and they go artsy. We can’t blame anyone, but our selves.

Yes, having children is a huge responsibility for us. However, just because they are a responsibility and take time out of our day, does not mean the are a hardship in are life. No, They are to be a privilege that we have been granted. Psalm 127:3-5 makes that clean, “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!”

As fathers, we should be spending a great deal of our time teaching our kids about God and his teachings. Trying to find ways to inject God into any activity we are engaged in with our children. Doing some garden work, Talk about Genesis and the beauty of Gods creation. Building a shelf, tell them about how Jesus was a carpenter and why He chose to be a carpenter, where he worked with his hands.

Use your time with them to teach them about God. Sure, not everyone is a bible scholar, but it’s not hard to inject a lesson into it. If you know your going to do something with them tomorrow, then after you put them to sleep, use that time to do research on a lesson you can apply to what you will be doing the following day.

How Cute. Elijah’s First Bad Word.


Ok I don’t really believe it is sweet, and I was being a bit sarcastic with the title. However, Elijah has said his first bad word. And that magical word was none other then the F-Bomb.

I wish I could say he learned it from some stranger, or at preschool. However, I would be lying. He learned it from me. The Male role model in his life. At least, I am supposed to be his role model, but I failed.

He had overheard me say this word while I had been on the phone. I had been was upset about something one of our officers had done. Now I can’t be upset with him. It was 100% my fault. I said the word and he repeated a word, he knows nothing about. A word that even I should not be saying. Originally, I told him not to say it again and hopped he would forget it. Of course, he did not. He a little sponge, soaking up every little thing.

So, while Elijah, Luz had been sitting down watching a movie in the living room. Elijah said, out of the blue, “what the %$^. And immediately Luz turned gave me a look and said, “See!” I was busted. Since then he has said it a few more times, and we are stuck trying to get Elijah to understand why he should not be saying such a thing.

This also reflects badly on me. I am the head of the family. A Christian family, and I am to be the model for what my son is to grow up to be like. God had given me this responsibility, and I failed. However, I have also learned from this. I have learned that just saying a word one time, and that word can stick with my son his entire life because of me. And I cannot fail again.

Dysfunctional Families You’re Not The First, But God Can Help.


The Bible has a lot to say about families, it even mentions the ideal family.

Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. (1 Peter 3:8)

This seems simple, but a lot of families have issues. Even the most close families will have times where they find themselves having issues they must overcome. And the Bible is full of stories where families are challenged with issues. Genesis 3 is the first known case in the Bible where both the husband and the wife disobey God, only later to have one of their children kill another one of their children (Genesis 4:8).

A person’s family can challenge them in every way. Yet we cannot just simply abandon, or give up when times are hard. A family needs to learn to stick together, and meet the challenge, working together to get through the issue.

2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything (James 1:2-4).

12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him (James 1:12)

Even when we have lots of issues with a family member we cannot just abandon them, or stop taking care of them. The Bible does not have anything good to say about such a person who does.

8 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever (1 Timothy 5:8).

True, it is not always easy. If you have a child who has become addicted to drugs, and takes money out of his own mother’s purse. It can be hard to trust that child. And yes… Sometimes denying that child something, you are helping him.

However, if he is hungry, you still must feed him/her. If they are sad you must still be there for them. Ultimately you are trying to build them up in the Lord (Romans 15:1) when you do this. And if you trust God, he can make your family stronger and better (Isaiah 40:31).

You must also be ready to forgive that family member when they have turned from their sin. Remember what it says in Matthew 6:14 – 14 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”

Trust God. Let him guide you. Live as God wants you to live.

22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do (James 1:22-25)

And remember, you are not the first or only dysfunctional family. And God will not abandon you. You however must be willing to trust God in all things.