Yesterday we found out the sex of baby to be. We are having a another boy. So we have a spare…
All kidding aside, it wonderful news. I know Luz wanted a girl, but is happy nonetheless. Me, I’m happy no matter the sex of the baby. I do know this means Luz will want to try again at some point, something you wont hear me disagree on.
Now, comes the hard part, choosing a name. Something we are finding is harder this time around.
Human history is riddled with a lot of disgusting and disturbing Acts. With Some of our worst moments having taken place when one group of humans had declared that others are not human, or are some kind of subset of humans. A kind of less developed human being.
Millions of Jews had been sent to the gas chamber. As they had been seen as Untermensch, a term that was used to describe inferior people.
Even slaves had been seen as not being human. Thus, it was fine to do what you wanted to with them.
However, it seems we have not learned from our past. Where millions of our most innocent have been killed because others have deemed them not to be human. Or are said to be a less-developed human.
At least not until they pass through the vagina, as if the vagina is a magical barrier that turns them into a Human Being.
I’m talking about the millions of babies that have been routed out of their mother’s in what is called an abortion. A word that fails to really describe the genocide that is taking place. After all if you described it as crushing skulls or sucking brains out, it could have an effect of humanizing the unborn baby’s. So, other words are used in their place called euphemisms.
Euphemisms are used in order to downplay the barbarism of this genocide. Where words such as abortion and terminating a pregnant are used. They won’t even call it a baby. Instead, they choose to call it a clump of cells, a parasite or a zygote in order to dehumanize the innocent life within.
Why do you think the same people who use such Euphemisms don’t ask pregnant women, at lest women who have are going to have their babies such things as, “Are you going to find out if your zigote will be a boy or girl?” instead choosing to use the word “baby.” Never using the words zigote, blastocysts, even calling it parasite or clump of calls.
Chances are you have never heard anyone refer to an unborn child that way, unless there are talking about killing the baby. Then they use such words. Why because its easier to justify ripping the baby out of the womb if you no longer think of it as a human.
Showing that it is only a human when its wanted, and when it’s not wanted they disconnect it in their minds from humanity. Justifying it by dehumanizing the life and down playing what is done to extinguish that life.
It’s discussing how people feel that it’s ok to take a human life because it’s an inconvenience for them. No one has the right to snuff out the most innocent of us. A person right not to be inconvenienced does not trump the right for that individual human being to live.
To use a common pro-baby killer Euphemism, It is sad to think that the embryo of an eagle is seen as more valuable then that of a human, where terminating the eagle embryo will result in a heavy fine and or prison time. But a human embryo can’t get that same protection.
With this said, we on the side of saving lives must put forth plans and programs that, while they don’t incentivize people to pop out babies for some kind of reword or hand out, we do need to come up with ideas to give mothers reasons to keep the children, while setting up programs to better take care of the children who are given up. And to adopt more children, giving them a home with a loving family.
Because in the fight to save lives, many have forgotten that if you win, there is still a life that needs to be taken care of once born. And the implications, such as truing over the unconstitutional ruling Raw v. Wade without a plan to care for the many children is careless to say the lest.
This is something that must be discussed now, not later. Not after its over turned, not right before it is. Now!
Today my aunt Deb loaned us a stethoscope in the hopes we can hear our baby’s heart. I wasn’t sure I would hear anything seeing the baby is so young inside the womb, but to my surprise it would appear we could hear the little tiny tyke safely inside.
When I first heard the sounds through the stethoscope, I was very skeptical of what I was hearing. Even though to me it sounds like I could hear something moving around and strange thumping sound that sounded like it was in what (obviously not a heart beat as it was only periodic) best be described as liquid.
So being a little bit skeptical. I put the stethoscope up to me to see if I heard any similar sounds. As I was thinking . Who knows knows it could be the stomach or the bladder or something eles. And I tried a few things to replicate that sound. And I just couldn’t get that same sound, no matter how hard I tried. I even asked my own mother to listen and she was just instantaneously convinced that is the baby that she was hearing.
So I think it’s safe to say that what I was hearing probably was the noise of our future child . unfortunately I was unable to hear the heartbeat, or anything that was really like it but, my wife tells me she was able to hear the little ones heart. And I think she probably did. As I think her hearing is probably better than my own.
So this is a pretty cool little thing, and I suspect as the baby gets older we will be able to hear a lot more sounds from it. And hopefully pretty soon we’ll eventually see and feel the baby moving. That is something I think both of us are really looking foreword to, putting our minds at ease when were able to see it moving and know that it’s okay. Because right now we don’t exactly have a portable ultrasound device that will allow us to check and make sure it’s still alive and okay in there. So for now I guess will be relying on a stethoscope for home use.
Well my wife’s taste for foods have changed. This is something I thought would come later on in the pregnancy. Now she hasn’t asked for anything silly yet like, a peanut butter and pickle sandwich. But she has started wanting flavor of foods in a different way. And she’s wanted to add spicy stuff to her food. Now, my wife doesn’t really like spicy foods. She used to sit there and tell me that she can’t even eat it because it’s too spicy and ask me to finish eating. Because I absolutely enjoy eating spicy foods.
So now I find her adding some of my jalapeno pepper sauce or habanero pepper sauce to different foods to (both sauces are similar to Tabasco sauce just a little hotter). This is not the norm for her but it is an interesting one. Which means I can start making spicy foods again. Ar at least until her taste buds change yet again.
I even find her making requests for me to go out and get her food store. After we have settled into bed the night. Mostly for fruit, particularly watermelon and strawberries.
I have a feeling this pregnancy is going to be a very interesting experience for both of us.
Today we had a ultrasound performed and now have the first look at my wife and I’s future child. Apparently the baby is not 10 weeks but about approximately 5 weeks. Which means the child was most likely conceived on my birthday. These the same both got a pretty big smile out of that.
It was so incredible, watching this video monitor and seemed the little tiny baby’s heart beating. We could not really make out much on the monitor. However, you can see it just flattering away. It was so amazing to see that our future little baby’s heart beating away as ours probably stood still for a moment in time as we watched holding each other’s hands.
I remember looking at my wife’s face is lit up with one heck of a smile. One that she’s giving me right now as I write this blog posting talking about it.
I think there was still a little bit of doubt that she could be pregnant at this time. I think we needed something more concrete, even after three pregnancy tests. In this ultrasound has acted as the ultimate confirmation of something so beautiful.
So now we have a new approximate date for the birth of our future child, which currently is now early December. Although we do not know if it is a boy or girl.
My wife and I have confirmed my wife’s pregnancy through a Dr. and their version of the pregnancy test. We have yet to do a ultrasound. Mainly because I found out the hard way that my insurance company has decided they don’t want to pay out anything for my wife’s maternity needs. So our insurance company has screwed us. A Insurance company that I’m sending money to. Well, not anymore.
I looked into new insurance for us. Unfortunately, because she is pregnant. It will cost far more to have insurance now, than it did when she was not pregnant. However, we do have some options and we are currently looking into them at this point and I’m not concerned to much about it.
We have been discussing a lot of things about the baby to be. One thing we discussed was, do we want to know the sex of the baby? Personally, I do not want to know until the baby is born. My wife on the other hand wants to know so that she can buy the appropriate clothing for the baby, as well as other things. Which makes sense, but if she knew or anybody knew, it wouldn’t be long before I found out. Not because somebody would tell me, but because I’m very good at putting two and two together and finding out the truth behind something, even when I’m not trying. And this is something I can not help because, my mind works in such a way that is constantly putting things together. And I was a child spoke many Christmases because I was able to figure out what my guests were without ever seeing them. So we have decided together that it’s best to know the sex of the baby, once we get an ultrasound and can have it revealed to us.
We have also discussed the names for the baby. If it’s a boy. We have two options that we are looking at Daniel Elijah. The other being the reverse Elijah Daniel. We decided on this for a boy for a few reasons. One being both are biblical. Next being that both of our own dads are named Daniel, and this would be a great way to honor them. And my wife’s brother who had passed away, was also named Daniel. So we would be able to pay her brother respects in an honorable way. And the name Elijah is just a name that I always wanted to name my son if I ever had one. And both are biblical names.
If it is a girl. Well, we really don’t know what we would need her. We haven’t even really put out any names. Although we have both asked each other what if it’s a girl what would you name her. So far the only answer I’ve personally been able to come up with is naming her after my wife. Other than that we really don’t know. We may follow a more traditional Filipino meaning method. Which if I understand correctly the middle name will be the last name of her family.
We’ve even been to a babies-R-us store and looked around at things we will need and want to get a child. And strangely enough no matter how masculine I tried to be at the babies-R-us store. I found it hard as I was a looking at such cute little things saying things like Ahaaa… It’s so cute. Things you normally would never hear me say.
We have also discussed other core issues, such as how we want to raise her child in such a way that glorifies God. And things that we would expect from each other, raising our child together.
Other topics that we have discussed have been circumcision, which I am against. To what method of punishment we feel would be best for the child upbringing.
All in all, there’s a lot of things we have discussed and a lot more that we probably need to discuss. Things we haven’t even really thought about it.
I think though, most of all we are a little scared and nervous about our first child. Me perhaps a little more so on the raising of the child because I was an only child. I don’t really have experience when it comes to raising children. So I never cared for a younger brother or sister. So I don’t have that experience. And my father died before before I was two years old so I don’t have normal father figure to be an example to me. So I’m a little nervous and scared due to my inexperience.
My wife on the other hand, does have that experience, but I think she’s a little more worried about what she’s going to go through. Although I think she is also a little nervous and scared about raising the child to. As she’s has asked me now, more than once. If I think she will make a good mother. And I do think she will, she is very good with kids. I’ve seen her interact with them. And she has a very big heart. She’s kind, compassionate and caring. All the things that I find attractive about her. And it is these things that I find attractive about her that makes me think that she will be a terrific mother.