As a Christian, I know what it is like to be attack by non believes. I had some very hateful things said about me and what I believe. I have even had people attack my family for simply being a Christian and not necessarily anything I specifically believe. It does come with the territory.
However, it would seem that many who are calling themselves a Christian, feel that it is perfectly acceptable to behave just as the non believers who are attacking them do. Saying hateful in Vile thing in return. Some may even say it to a non-believer who is behaving civilized with them, because of what others have done to them previously.
This is not how Christians are to act. We are to “Abstain from all appearance of evil.” (1 Thessalonians 5:22) and we are not doing that when we are calling people names, launching personal attacks, being prideful, arrogant or putting others down.
One of the greatest Commandments we have is to love our neighbor. And really, how can we say we love our neighbor when are treating the non-believer so horribly? When our actions make it look like we hate them?
Sure, the non-believer may be hateful and vile towards us in his or her attempt to destroy us. However, the Bible does not tell is to follow all the rules, except when attacked by a atheist or muslim who is trying to hurt our feelings. We are to always be humble, patience, meekness, not prideful, be gentle with perfect courtesy toward all people. Because, we are to , “Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against us as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation.” (1 Peter 2:12)
We are to use their attempts to destroy us, to being them to the Lord. Just as David did when his enemies had been spreading lies,and being deceitful. In the end, we need to trust God, “When you’re under attack, take refuge in the Lord as your righteous defender.” (Psalm 5:1-7)
Sadly, when many Christians are confronted on their unchristian like behavior/actions. I have found that very few change what they are doing. Either giving excuses as to why they can do what they are doing, ignoring the Bible. Or they claim I am not a Christian, because to them, a Christian does not call out other Christians for what they are doing. Therefore, because they deem me as not a christian, they feel that it gives them an excuse to continue with the unchristian-like behavior. No I’m completely unaware of any Scripture that says that, even if somebody is not Christian they can not point out unchristian-like behaviors and actions.
In many ways, I understand such people. When I was a new Christian, I had a hard time with this. I would fight back giving just as much if not more then what I was given. I said some horrible things to people as a reaction to what they are sub to me. I had a hard time being kind to those who are not doing so with me. It’s just taking me a long time to get where I am today. Even after all these years, I still find that I must pull myself aside and remind myself of how I should interact with others, others who I’m not exactly the nicest people towards me.
We must remember that our works are an indication of our faith. If we don’t act like we believe what we profess to believe, then why would a non-believer even take a serious? Why would they even consider what we have to say?
We must also ask ourselves, our we bringing glory to God with the things we say and do? Is our behaviors and actions resulting in a seed being planted? Or is wedge being driven in? Which do you think is more productive?